We are/were mean girls

I don't know about you, but there has been a time when I would mentally dismiss a girl because she was either prettier or skinnier than me. Why? One point in my life, I had low self-esteem that no one knew about because I would hide it with a smile that never reached my eyes. See, if I could put someone else down, I would feel better about myself. At certain times, I did and was happy about myself. However, that all changed when I was called out of my name and it struck me hard that I cried. I finally had learned what it was like to be the victim.

Today, we - girls- only support our "squads" or people close to us that we shut out those who really need it. Scrolling through our Instagram feed, there's a disturbing picture and [you]see it's of girl exposing herself or a boy doing it. Personally, I'd cringe and skip the photo like I didn't but that makes me a bystander. Others may call her a "hoe" or "thot" and boys send her the heart eyed emoji along with his number. 

Here's the thing, we don't know why she posted - we assume. Sometimes our assumptions are: WRONG! Instead of just scrolling by or calling her out of her name, maybe we should "dm" saying " Hey,girl. The post you made isn't something you'd want your parents or school officials to see." (something along the lines of that) This simple act shows you're more of a friend than a person who ridicules her.

It's now that we - girls and women- begin to compliment each other and help when one has fallen. The name-calling and bullying has to end because if it doesn't younger generations will look up to the media on how it is to be woman.